Erica Lippy: How to Create the Right Alignment in Your Life
Today, in the Scheer Madness Podcast, Rachel interviews Erica Lippy, a driven, curious, and passionate soul in pursuit of a little inspiration, motivation, and encouragement. She hosts the Passion Love Pursuit Podcast where she evokes positive change in people’s lives so that we can all become the best version of our authentic self.
Erica defines what limiting beliefs are and how these eventually stop us from achieving bigger things. We talk about how trauma that we consider to be notably small have as much impact as big traumas how living in alignment with our true self helps us understand ourselves better and identify our purpose with more clarity, and why we should be more passionate towards ourselves before we can give compassion to others.
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- 00:00 Intro
- 06:49 Diagnosed with a learning disability at a young age
- 12:10 Not living in alignment with yourself
- 16:59 Most limiting beliefs stem from childhood
- 26:06 Getting led by clear values
- 37:12 Be mindful on where you want to grow
- 44:46 If you’re stressed, change your environment
- 46:45 Passion is for ourselves, purpose is for others
- 53:54 Can your purpose change?
- 57:57 What does living in an aligned life mean?
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[00:00:00] Erica Lippy: When you’re keeping your word, when you say you’re gonna do something, you do it. And the more you do it, you build competence. And then from there you build your confidence. It’s like a constant muscle that you’re using. With that you’re gonna get more confident, you’re gonna get more competence, and then you’re gonna soar.
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Hey everyone, and welcome back to another episode of Sheer Madness. I have an awesome guest here joining us today. Erica Lippi, who I actually met a few months ago. I went on her podcast, but we had mutual friends and as I’ve really gotten to know her, she is just a badass woman. She has done so much in her life to create an incredible alignment, and that’s exactly what we’re gonna be diving here into today because something that my pastor, Keith Kra.
always talks about is our alignments really create our assignments. And when we get in alignment with our body and our health, when we get around the right type of people, and we also feel in alignment with our purpose, this is truly where we can make an impact, where we can achieve, you know, happiness that we’re all really chasing ultimately in our life.
So I’m honored here today to introduce Erica Lippy. Welcome to the show.
[00:05:23] Erica Lippy: Oh my goodness. Thank you so much, Rachel, for having me, and thank you for that introduction. First of all, I just wanna say thank you for bringing me into your space and your environment because I, I feel the same way. When I connected with you just the first time you were on my show and then being able to meet you in person, I’m like, oh my gosh, you’re my person.
Like, I know, just, I, I really just wanna thank you for showing up as you do so authentically and it’s, it’s felt and it feels so welcoming, so I just thank you for giving me the opportunity as well.
[00:05:57] Rachel Scheer: Yeah, and there’s like those relationships that just feel easy in and you meet someone and they have that energy where you’re like, I thoroughly enjoy being around you.
And I know for like most of my life I was around people where I felt like they took energy from me. Like I would get around friends and we would go maybe out to bars or drinking. This is like old Rachel, like sorority girl, Rachel. But I would leave feeling depleted and it’s such a beautiful thing to be in a place in in my life.
And I know you are as well, where we live, we leave being around, you know, people like you, people like Amber in our circle, and we actually feel like we’ve gained energy. We feel more empowered with who we are in the work that we’re doing. So I know that’s the topic we’ll be diving into today. For everyone who’s listening, I’d love to just get a bit more of your background, what you do.
You have an awesome podcast that I had the honor of coming on, and today’s a little bit reversed. Now I get to have you on my show. Uh,
[00:07:00] Erica Lippy: thank you. Well, it’s like, where do I start with my story? I always feel, I don’t know which way to go, but since, based on the topic, we wanna dive in today, so I’m gonna bring us back to kind of my early years and really where all my limitations kind of stem from.
So at a young age, age 10, I was diagnosed with the learning disability. And this kind of really gave me, you know, the lack of confidence myself, that I wasn’t smart enough, I was different than the kids, and how do I show up more special than somebody that lacks, uh, this, uh, brains or whatnot. So I wanted to really show up as something different than I actually was.
And I was trying to navigate what that was. And of course, this is age 10, pretty young. Hmm. But I actually started dating extremely young too, so that enforced a lot of beliefs as well. I started dating at age 11, but I got into a serious relationship at age 13 to 23. So 10 year relationship, he was. Three years older, so 1316, that’s a pretty wide gap.
Uh, and you’re very impressionable at that age, and you’re still trying to figure out yourself. You know, when we’re teenagers, it’s so funny because I’m witnessing Noah, my partner, that has a 13 year old and I’m witnessing this teenager go through all these changes. I’m like, that’s exactly when I started having this serious relationship.
Mm-hmm. And so I, I see I witnessed a lot of things in that teenage stage, if you wanna say. But for me, uh, in that relationship, I yet to have formed into the person I, you know, who I was. I didn’t know what I was yet. So a lot of the things that I would do or like, was because of my partner that I was with at that age.
And. For so long I had no idea really, truly who I was. And so that was one thing. And the other counterpart of that is I was emotionally abused, so he made me feel obviously less than him, not, um, as smart as him. So that reinforced that belief that I had from that learning disability. And so I carried that with me for so long and, and then I had a healthy relationship after that.
There was one big lesson from that relationship. It was about five and a half years. It was a healthy relationship. But one thing I learned from that is I loved him more than myself. And so when that relationship ended, I just really started to look within and really just get to know myself more and, and really just form the beliefs that actually I could stand behind that were truth.
Uh, and so that’s kind of like where a lot. A lot of my pain and trauma, if you wanna say, has come from relationships. And so I’ve had to learn so much in relationships, but really the thing I need to learn is making men’s and, and, and cultivating this love in the relationship with myself. Mm-hmm. , that’s really what it came down to is because I never had the time really to get to know who I was and, and really get clear on what do I value, what I believe and, and stand for and, and then really become that woman that is in alignment with that.
So talking about the subject we’re gonna go into is like, that’s kind of where it stemmed from, is again, wanting to be seen for something that I really wasn’t, I mean, it was just wanting to be accepted and loved as we all want growing up. And, and so that really was when I started to do the personal development work is trying to.
Figure out like, why do I keep getting the same results, uh, same heartbreaks and stuff like that. And then just took ownership for my life and said, enough is enough. I gotta do the work. And, and that’s when I dived in. So,
[00:10:41] Rachel Scheer: yeah. And I think, um, when we talk about trauma too, like we tend to think about like that big t traumas, right?
Where it’s like I was sexually abused where somebody died. But I think sometimes the most detrimental trauma is those little traumas that we don’t really. Notice of very often, we don’t think that it’s maybe a big deal until we get way later on in life and we’re like, holy shit. I don’t even know who I am.
Like what do I want? What do I value? You know, why is it that I put everybody else first outside of myself? And that’s where we really start to get to peel back that onion of those layers of like, where did this come from? You know? So I think that that’s beautiful that you mention that piece about, about yourself because getting in alignment with our body, although when we think about that of maybe being physical, that is a piece of it.
Um, but I think a big piece of getting in alignment with our body is also getting an alignment in who am I? You know, w what do I want for my. , you know, what is the identity that I have with myself? And I know a lot of women and men who come from trauma, that’s a question that we all ask ourself at some point in our life.
Like, what do I really want from me? So I wanna dive into this even a little bit further and, and pull a little bit more out of you. Yeah. But, so you were out of this relationship, like, who am I? Why am I, I loving this person more than I’m actually, you know, loving myself? What did that deep dive really look like for you?
I know that’s a
[00:12:13] Erica Lippy: broad question. Yeah. Actually, I kept on repeating the same pattern over and over. Like I did have a gap where I wasn’t dating and I was single for some time. So I was getting to know myself and really, you know, stepping into my worth. Uh, so I thought . So, uh, fast forward I kept on, you know, I actually, not long after that relationship ended it, I met somebody and I fell into this unhealthy, toxic pattern of a relationship, if you wanna say.
And so, Even though I was starting to come in my own, I got so tied up in this toxic situation. And that is, honestly, it affected me quite tremendously. This is where I realized I wasn’t living in alignment with myself because I was not being, uh, you know, I thought I respected myself. I thought I, you know, uh, had self-worth and, you know, I thought I had all the things figured out.
I thought I was confident. And it just really, when I looked at it, I felt it was a total facade because I wouldn’t, I wouldn’t do the things I was doing. I wouldn’t say the things I would say and act how I was acting and not having these boundaries. So just fast forward just a few, uh, series of unhealthy relationships or relationships that didn’t work out.
And then I, that’s really when I was like, okay. Like enough is enough, kind of hit that brick on, you know, like hit the floor like a brick on the wall. And, and then I started to, you know, I, I started working with my life coach again. I said yes to her because I was like, there I have to change something or nothing’s gonna change.
So I said yes to her. That was one thing. And then I was really intentional when I was working with her. Like, I’m ready to do the work when I, when I work with you, when we do our calls, I’m gonna be home. I’m not gonna be driving multitasking because I’m gonna be there and, and writing down everything I need to write down and actually putting my intention into what, what you’re teaching me.
So that’s when I started to do, and she, that’s when really it started to hit me, like to break those patterns. And that’s when I started to ask those questions as you were talking about like, what do I value? What do I like, what are the beliefs or the limitations I have about myself? And, and also like, Since we were talking about relationships, I would start to question like, what if I were to write down the perfect band, like what I desire, like quality as in a man, what would that be?
And I remember writing it all down. And once you start doing that exercise, you write a lot of things, but then you start to understand yourself more in that process. Like this is really. Why do I want this? This is because I value this. This is something that I could align with. So that was really, it was a lot of journaling.
It was a lot of like, mm-hmm. being quiet, getting still, and asking myself these powerful questions that were going to change. Number one, my focus, and then number two, like what’s my intention? What do I see for my life? And just getting more clear on that. I think number one, before anything is self-awareness.
Like you need to know where you’re at. You gotta get like quiet. Create the space, the time, really check in and just be radically honest with yourself. As painful as it might be. You gotta be honest with yourself. You gotta say like, these are the lies. This is how I’m showing up. I’m not in alignment. I’m not being the woman that I say I am or, or whatnot.
And it could be embarrassing, like, It, it’s, it is embarrassing, but the only way to change something is just being honest with ourself and then saying like, well, I have responsibility for my life. I’m taking full responsibility. So I get to choose a new narrative. So whatever’s the past, accept it, forgive it, release it, and move forward.
And now I could create a new reality. So that’s kind of like what I started to do, .
[00:16:04] Rachel Scheer: Yeah. Which is, it’s a lot of a, of a process to do that work. And as you know, I’ve, I’ve doven into a lot of that, that healing work myself and a lot of our listeners are, are even on a healing journey themselves of really figuring out, okay, who am I?
And I’m not really living up to my fullest potential. I’m not really getting what I, I know that I want in life. And some of you guys may not even be clear of what that really even is, but I think just like knowing that. Like that place of like, why am I getting this same pattern happening over and over again in my life?
That there’s something obviously, you know, not working and having that first step of awareness is, I think so crucial there that you speak to, um, for you when you dove into the work, I know for me it’s like, okay, I have this awareness and how I’m showing up and how this is playing a role in my life. Did you end up having to do a lot of like digging and where this was really stemming from based off of your trauma?
[00:17:05] Erica Lippy: Yeah, like when you talk about like limiting beliefs, a lot of them stem from our childhood and so I had to write down, or one of the exor that I did was write down these limitations that would keep running. Mm-hmm. over and over in my head. And I would look at them and just like really ask. Is this true?
And then when we focus on like this limitation, we’ll be like, yes, it’s true. Of course it is. Like I have all this proof. But then if you’re able to look at it a different way and be honest, like if you were to pull back from bird’s eye view, like is this really the truth? Like, I’ve proven myself in so many ways.
Like for example, I’m stupid or, or whatever. I’m not smart enough. I had so much proof that I am that I’ve done that I’ve accomplished these things and I have the ability to learn anything. I’ve proven myself of all these things that I didn’t know anything about that I was able to learn. So it’s just like debunking those beliefs and those stories you tell yourself and that’s really like it.
It’s one of the most important things we could do for ourself cuz that’s what inhibits us from getting anything we want in our life. Like even being a partner, it’s like if we hold onto these limitations, like I can’t be loved, like, you know, I. Yada, yada. You could be so many different reasons. If you hold onto that story, then how could you be in alignment to attract that partner that sees you for everything that you are, you know?
So I think it’s one of the most important things to do is those stories and mm-hmm. limiting beliefs is kind of debunk them.
[00:18:37] Rachel Scheer: Yeah. What is the story that you’re telling yourself? What is really the belief that you carry? Because very often we can say we have a belief, or we can say we want something, but then our belief about ourself isn’t really in alignment.
Yeah. With what we say we want or where we say we’re going. And it for everybody who’s listening, like we will always. Prove to ourself whatever we believe to be true about ourself. Even if it’s not something we want. Like, if we’re like, you know, I think I’m, you know, stupid, like you said, you know, but you are wanting something that’s greater for your life.
Let’s say you wanna speak in front of people, you wanna start a podcast, you wanna be an entrepreneur, start a business, but you have a belief system that you’re stupid. You know, that’s going to continue to reiterate over and over and over again in your life. Until you break that limiting belief and you step into a more empowering belief that is actually the truth, cuz we tell ourself lies.
Yeah. And one of my favorite questions that my coach always asks me when I, I I bring up like some kind of a belief I have about myself is where did you learn? . Yep. Where did you learn that? And I always have to like pause and slow down and be like, oh yeah, yeah. Who taught me that? Who taught me to think that way?
Because we typically learned it from somewhere, from some experience, from somebody else. You know, maybe it was a past relationship. Um, I know you said you went through a lot of tough relationships where maybe there was emotional abuse, maybe there was Not from our family, you know, but we tend to teach ourselves certain things about ourself that just aren’t true, and that creates that misalignment.
[00:20:17] Erica Lippy: So, yeah. and can I add to that? Because the other thing talking about like some of my limitations, one of them was like, I don’t speak well. And that is partly it’s not the whole reason of why I started my podcast. So a lot of the times now, ever since I’ve like kind of shifted my life, let’s say five years ago when I really started to do this work, I tend to step into everything that I fear.
So everything that I fear, I feel I struggle in. I will just like step right in it, like jump in the deep end and I’ll be like, I’m gonna prove myself wrong. Like, so I’ve been doing that over and over. And actually the mastermind I spoke at Amber Lees, that was my first keynote. Scared shitless, right? . It really was.
And I’m like, oh my gosh, I can’t remember all the things I wanna say. And, and you get so overwhelmed about like all these things that you’re thinking, but so often we just need to like jump in, like say Yes before we’re ready. Because once we say yes to something, Elise, this is me. When I say yes to something, I’m committed.
I’ve already decided. And because of that now, cuz I’m committed and I’m one to keep my word to myself and others, now I’m gonna reverse engineer. Okay, how do I at least set myself up for the best success in this? Even if I know I might not do as well as I might hope I would do, I’m still gonna give my, I’m gonna still set myself up for success in the best way possible.
And the only way to move forward is by failing, at least like we’re gonna fail along the way, but the only way to succeed is to fail first, right? So that’s kind of how I debunk my beliefs too, is like proving myself wrong. Just by saying yes, you know, which I think is scary, but it’s having that faith over fear, you know?
I think that’s super
[00:22:05] Rachel Scheer: powerful because I think we try to have like the belief before the auction there, and that’s like affirmations, which I, I’m all about affirmations. I think they can be great, you know, but at the end of the day, you know, if we’re constantly saying something to ourself over and over again, and that action piece really isn’t there, like we’re not gonna.
We’re not gonna believe it at all. And what I’m really hearing from you is like, I take the action even though maybe the belief piece isn’t fully there yet, and I prove it to myself a hundred percent. Um, so I may have the belief that, you know, I’m not a good speaker. I can’t talk very well, so I’m gonna get a podcast, I’m gonna start doing it.
I’m gonna fail my way to get good at it. Which I think is so freaking powerful because not a lot of people have that mindset. They don’t have that mindset of like, I’m gonna fail my way to the top. You know, we come from this place of like fear of doing things where we’re gonna have to put ourself out there and get really, really freaking uncomfortable.
Yeah. And that’s a, a very powerful place to be. And I can imagine you hold also to like this identity piece of somebody who. Does hard things in somebody who takes risks, are you, would you consider yourself
[00:23:19] Erica Lippy: to be a, a risk leader? Yeah, absolutely. I love it. Kind of coincides with my obsession with adventure, I guess you could say
Mm-hmm. . So, yeah. I, I just love, I love stretching. I love growing, so I think that is probably why I’m able to just like, jump in the deep end because I love, I love that expansion. Even as scary as it is, I think it’s a great way and a quick way to build confidence. Mm-hmm. , like when you say you’re gonna do something, you do it, you keep your word.
Over and over again. But also by doing these little things over and over, it builds your comp. I love the, actually, I got this from Bero. I love how he talks about confidence. Like when you’re keeping your word, it’s like you, when you say you’re gonna do something, you do it, and the more you do it, you build competence.
And then from there you build your. Your confidence. And so with that, it’s like, it’s like a constant muscle that you’re using as just stacking those little habits over and over. And with that, you’re gonna get more confident, you’re gonna get more competence, and then you’re in a soar. And then more credibility by keeping your words.
So I, I think that’s the best way to really get over those limitations . All right, guys, I
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So you don’t wanna miss out on this incredible opportunity. I have one lucky winner who’s gonna be getting this, so check it out and good luck. Yeah, and it also though, sounds like to me too though, like you had a core value that almost trumped one of your fears or one of your limiting. Too, um, where you had this core value of somebody who grows, somebody who takes risks, and then you may have had this limiting belief of like, Hey, I, I don’t believe I’m a good speaker, but because you have this value and this piece of identity that I’m the type of person who takes risks, who goes after what it is that I want, I can really see that really playing a massive role in your ability to overcome a lot of that.
And I know that to be true with myself cuz I always give myself the identity of, you know, I’m the kind of person who does things that most people won’t do. So I get the results that most people won’t get. And there’s things, you know, half the time I’m like, oh my gosh, I don’t wanna do this, I don’t wanna do this.
But because I carry so much of that identity piece, that then plays a role when there’s other things that are more limiting beliefs to myself. Like, I don’t think I can do this. I don’t think I can sit in a nice bath for five minutes. Yeah. You know, I don’t think I can go speak in front of 2000 people.
And I’m like, no, but I’m the kind of person who goes after what I want. And I think that’s so powerful cuz that plays a much bigger role than
[00:27:24] Erica Lippy: those limiting beliefs. What you just said is so powerful that I think everybody needs to hear. Turn the light on you right now because that is so key. Like one of the number one things we need to do is really understand our values and our beliefs.
Right? But getting really clear, I don’t think a lot of people do this exercise is really getting clear on what you value. What do you stand for? Like, who are you man or woman, what do you, what do you ground your feet? And, and like you just said, you, you spoke it very clearly is my, one of my values is growth and, and and being able to say I did it.
You know, like I love accomplishing things. And so that is exactly that. When you get clear on your values, then you are gonna be led by that instead of your fear and that will override those beliefs. So beautifully said, so perfect. And so everybody, , get really clear on your values cuz that’s really what’s gonna drive you ultimately.
And, and then you’ll live more intentionally, right? Yeah. Like you talked about the ice baths is a good example, is like you. And this is something I think about too with my health and my workouts. Um, it is very much my health is, is everything. Like I, I do truly believe health is everything when you struggled as you have with health issues.
I’ve had my share, and actually they were related to gut health, uh, and acne and all these things. When you have those, those things that have happened, like something that has really impacted you, then it becomes something that is really, uh, a powerful motivator in what you do. And so when you’re talking about the ice bath or working out, why it’s important to you, why it’s important to me because it’s the standard we set for ourself.
Like our health is everything. So what are we gonna do? We’re gonna set ourselves up to kind of stack those things that are gonna impact our health and we’re gonna stay committed because our standard is that. So it’s, it’s awesome. I mean, I think it’s. Really getting clear. I, I talk a lot about, uh, really connecting with your authentic self.
And part of that piece is really just knowing what you stand for. What are your values? Cuz those are really your cornerstones Yeah. For everything you do. Really. Yeah.
[00:29:34] Rachel Scheer: And I think that is that piece of getting in alignment with your body, with yourself. It’s getting a, an alignment with who am I? And I think when we ask that question, like who am I?
Like look at your values. Where do you spend most of your time? That is really at the core of who you are. You are what you value essentially at the end of the day. So we can start with our values and then also like that’s a filter for us in every decision that we make in our life. Does this align with my value?
Nope. There we go. That’s Xed off my plate. Does this align with my value? Yes, it is. Because when we don’t feel in alignment very often, and I’m sure you’d agree with this, but it’s when we’re not following something that fits in with our core values, essentially in our
[00:30:18] Erica Lippy: lives. A hundred percent. I’ve gone on, I think I’ve been way more intentional in definitely the last year.
When we talk about alignment, it’s like one of the, it’s one of my, uh, keywords right now if you wanna say, is like, and I, a lot of people are, it’s kind of a buzzword right now, like being in alignment. But what I love about the word alignment, I think it’s a next level than happiness. Like, ha, everybody wants to be happy, right?
But that’s kind of fleeting. It, it, you know, it changes with the days. We can’t always be like all stars and rainbows and, and sunshine, right? But alignment is where it’s, you’re in just in synergy in life. Like everything is at the same. You’re attracting the same vibration constantly in your relationships, in your, your lifestyle, in your business or whatever.
It’s just that energy match that keeps you at like a higher vibration. So I, I think it’s. It’s, it is so key to really understand, like, when you feel mu misalignment and those feelings would be like, you feel drained at the end of the day. You feel like when you’re in a relationship, whether it be a friendship or or whatnot, is you feel just like icky after, like you just feel more drained.
Like you’re saying, like when you’re in those, you are like hanging out with friends. You come back home and you’re like, oh gosh. You know? But when you’re in a room, like with the powerful woman we were at the Mastermind’s, like I felt just energized, literally like on fire. I felt powerful myself, but I also was like, these women I just wanna be in the room with like, gimme more of this.
Mm-hmm. . So it, it’s just, It’s really like ying and yang, that feeling. Yeah. And I, I wanna
[00:32:03] Rachel Scheer: hone in a little bit more on what you said about the happiness piece and the alignment piece because I think often we chase happiness, like you said, that’s fleeting. But when we chase happiness sometimes that’s what’s easiest and what’s most comfortable in the moment, cuz that can bring us happiness in the moment.
Like guess what? Eating a cheeseburger and sweet potato fries will bring me happiness in the moment at times. But it doesn’t mean it’s always in alignment with myself. And I think sometimes too, with that alignment piece, it’s things that don’t always feel good in the moment. Like it’s setting boundaries in our life that are hard to set.
Sometimes that alignment piece can actually be, you know, doing things that are difficult, disciplining ourself, you know, eating the foods that love us back. Um, waking up early, getting in our movement and our exercise. Like those don’t always in the moment bring happiness. Actually, very often in the moment we’re like, oh my gosh, I do not wanna do this.
Like, this sucks, this sucks. But it’s in alignment with who we are. And I think that feeling we get, it’s not an in the moment feeling. Sometimes it’s a delayed feeling of like, Wow, that felt really good. And it’s not like a happiness kind of fleeting thing. It’s just like a, a genuine, like confidence and trust in ourself to do the things that sometimes we don’t feel like we wanna do, but knowing that it is the best thing for us and who we say that we really are at the core.
And I think that was just a great point to really hone in on, on what you said there though, about that happiness and that alignment piece and you
[00:33:40] Erica Lippy: really brought that home. That’s so true. I think you’re so right. The, the boundary piece is most hardest for people, but, uh, having boundaries is the act of self-love.
And without boundaries, nothing is sustainable, to be honest. Like, especially in relationships. So, and, and I remember an example when you were saying this. I remember I’m not a late night owl at all. I wake up early, start my day early. I like to go to bed by 10, be in bed by like, Ideally nine 30. So I remember I was invited to an evening for, it was a dinner or a gathering at 8:00 PM on the other side of town.
And I’m like, oh goodness, I don’t know if I wanna say yes to it. And I remember being torn because of just my schedule being, it wasn’t in aligned with my schedule, but I did think about, but this is an alignment with what the people I wanna be around. It’s in personal growth. And uh, you know, I just started to look at more the, the positive side.
So I just like wrote off the fact that, okay, it’s later all, no big deal. I’ll just force myself to go out later than normal. And again, this is like, sounds so funny cuz it’s only 8:00 PM but that’s late for me. , I’m the same way. I’m the exact, I think I got home at like 1:00 PM or 1:00 AM sorry. And I was like, it was so late for me.
But it was such a blessing. I was just so happy that I said yes. And that’s when you know. Once you get more aware of who you are, what you stand for, what’s important to you, you’re able to be more conscious in your yeses and conscious in your No. And so I always check in, like just kind of looking at like weighing, if I’m really struggling with saying yes or no, I just weigh the benefits and the the outcomes and, and then I’m able to move forward just with a hell yes.
If you wanna say, or a hell no, you know, .
[00:35:31] Rachel Scheer: Yeah. And I think that when we really get quiet enough, like you said, and we really like check in with ourself, like we, we know the answer at the end of the day of like, do I wanna go? And it’s like, yes, I wanna go. Like I do wanna go. Yeah. But the answer could have also very well been, No, like, it’s really important to me to get a good night’s sleep tonight.
I got a lot of things going on in my life, and if I don’t get sleep tonight, and if I don’t get to bed early, then it’s gonna make these other things very difficult to my life. And if I show up, I’m gonna be thinking about me having to get home. So, nope, it’s not the best thing for me to go. And that’s why it’s so hard, you know, and we tend to think of it being black and white of like, you do this or you don’t do this.
But it’s, it’s a very individual thing and it’s different for everybody else based off of that first piece that we talked about here, which is your values and who you are and what you know to be true about yourself and getting massively, massively clear on that. Yeah. I, I love that you bring that up. I wanna dive into kind of that second piece of a, an alignment, because I know for me, like the biggest piece was getting in alignment with myself first and foremost.
Um, because then I was better able to get her, um, Similar people who had the same values that I had in my life. Um, I can look back at old Rachel, um, less confident Rachel, and I was around people who didn’t share my values and I was constantly burnt out. Um, exhausted, depleted. After hanging out with ’em, I felt always resistance.
You know, they’re like, I wanna go out and drink. And I was like, I wanna go work out and I wanna wake up early and I wanna be productive. And it was like kind of this inner battle where I left feeling depleted. And one of the things I think you’ve done so incredibly well is aligning yourself with other women and men too, but women of course, who share similar values as you.
And I think that’s such a crucial piece because yes, we wanna do the work on ourself, but also part of this. I think just mission that we’re on is also that community piece and we can really tenfold ourself and also serve other people better when we’re in that right alignment. So I’d love for you to speak to that piece.
[00:37:47] Erica Lippy: Yeah, I, that’s one thing that I’ve really focused a lot on this year is cuz I noticed, I started being on this little journey. I’m on , that we’re all on, you know, our, our, our self-development journey and, and just life lesson journey. I just realized, and it was during Covid, after Covid, I’m not sure, but I just started to just really check in and I’m like, I really feel.
That I want to find friendships that are in aligned with me. You know, that I really feel that I am inspired by, that they’re challenging me, that they’re on the same, not same path actually. I don’t even wanna say that they’re on a, their own path of growth. And it’s just, I wanted to connect with people that I just literally look like, and you being an example, that I’m literally in your presence and I’m like, I just, I see the beauty in you.
Like I, you are authentic. You are showing it up just. True and connected to who you are. And I just wanted to surround myself with more people like that. So I started being just more intentional. And I did notice, I started to also distance myself from other friends too, that I didn’t feel that connection.
So because of that, since I was distancing myself with some friends, I’m like, I really do wanna cultivate new friends. And so I was really being aware of how am I being a friend to others and being more intentional in, in how I’m showing up. Because I believe there’s this ebb and flows of giving and receiving.
And I believe you have to give, give, give, and it will come back to you and you’ll be able, and you’ll be able to receive what is given to you. And so I’ve just been trying to be more available to give. And so that I c I could also receive that friendship or whatever support I need back, you know? So I just think that.
You know, when it comes to relationships, I was just being more aware of who I wanted to spend time with. Again, being like really conscious and then yes and nos and time is like not very abundance, so you have to be very mindful of what you say yes to. And so I just started to focus my energy, uh, where I really wanted to grow a new relationship.
And in the past year, I’ve just really have reaped the, the blessings of that. I really feel just abundant in who I’ve surrounded myself with. And it’s also from podcasting, to be honest, is just connecting with like-minded people. It’s like that starts to fill your cup is because you are, you know, interacting with people that are in your.
Your interest and, um, that energy has just felt for miles, you know? So as far as relationship goes, I just think it’s been really mindful of like, connecting with people that you feel, as you’re talking about the, the feeling of having more energy when you’re surrounded by them. So I’ve just been more in tune with that.
[00:40:57] Rachel Scheer: Yeah. And I think it’s also being around people who inspire you and want you to get better. And this is probably, oh, quote, everybody’s heard before, but if you’re the smartest person in the room and you’re the one inspiring everybody else, you know, you’re probably in the wrong room. Mm-hmm. and Bedros, we’ve, we’ve talked about him a little bit earlier, but he talks a lot about, you know, the crab mentality that really takes place.
And it’s not something that’s very like conscious, I don’t think people are malicious in this, but he gives this analogy of when you put crabs in a bucket Oh, right. And one crab tries to climb out of the bucket. All the other crabs will reach up and grab that crab that’s trying to crawl out of the bucket and pull it back down.
Not because it wants to hurt the crab, but because it loves that crab. And I think that’s actually how people very much operate in, in life. Like we’re like, I, I love you, but I also am fearful of you leaving me and outgrowing me. So I want you to stay close to me and stay where I’m at on this level. Yeah.
Cause that fear of not. Being loved or losing a friend. And as humans, we will do whatever we can, you know, for love sometimes almost by like we, we what we talked about earlier, you know, neglecting our boundaries and what we need and what we want, like in order to feel love and accepted. And I think even in relationships too, like our friends, um, or you know, in our circles too, if we’re trying to grow, they sometimes can really bring us down.
And that’s why it’s so important to be around other women who actually wanna uplift you in your life. I know when I, I leave being around you and being around the other women who are at the Mastermind, I’m like, whoa, there’s so much more that I could do. And I’m excited about it and I feel energized and I feel like I have so much more potential in me that I’m really, I’m not even really fully seeing in myself.
Yeah. But being around women who actually see that in me, it’s a completely different feeling to have that.
[00:43:08] Erica Lippy: Absolutely. It’s infectious. Like it’s, it’s a blessing to be around people that, like you said, inspire you and encourage you to reach for the stars, you know, because they’re so often we get in our own way.
And so if you have friends that are kind of keeping them, Keeping you at this level, you won’t know your pos, what’s possible if you don’t have other people that are gonna make you stretch and and reach for the stars, you know? Yeah. Because we’re so stuck in our own limitations all the time.
[00:43:38] Rachel Scheer: And I think too, like sometimes we’re swimming in the wrong pools.
I can think back to a story with my. life Coach Brett, who I’ve been working with since my singleness. And I came to her one day and I was like, Brit, there is no guys out there who are driven, who are motivated, who care about fitness, you know, and they’re all just after one thing. And I just like, I had this like dump day with her.
I just, and she was like, Rachel, there are, but I think you need to start swimming in some different pools. There you go. And that was something that was so impactful to me. And it’s something that I’ve used throughout my life because those people are out there, but sometimes we’re swimming in wrong pools.
We’re just swimming in the wrong pool. And we wonder why, you know, we struggle so much to up level in our life. Why we struggle with our health, our fitness, feeling good, but our environment plays a massive role. Um, I think it’s at least like 50% of our life satisfaction actually comes down to. Our environment.
Yeah. You know, the people we surround ourself with our day-to-day routines, which is huge. Like, yeah, huge.
[00:44:45] Erica Lippy: Think about it, like when you talk about environment, just think about, cuz this just came to me, think about you being in a dark room with the lights off. And then think about being in a room where it’s day, day lit and all, you know, the, the glare of the sun is coming through the windows.
Like that is your environment. So if you feel like you said just like maybe you’re not in the right environment, maybe you’re in something that is kind of weighing you down, making you feel heavy and whatnot. Mm-hmm. and then there’s something that’s lifting you up and making you feel more alive. Like for me, one of the things I do to change my environment to what’s so important for me is being outside and in nature.
Mm-hmm. , I love sunshine, so if there’s sunshine even better, but just being outside in nature, like my energy and just my, just the feeling I have just. Raises right there immediately just by being in fresh air. So it’s just being mindful, like you said, of your environments like it, and understanding like what works for you, what helps you, what lifts you up and what raises your vibration.
So one thing for me is being outside personally. Yeah. Yeah.
[00:45:53] Rachel Scheer: I 100% agree with that. And I think I see in all of your social media pictures, you’re always outside . I’m always outside, oh my God. In some way, shape, or form. It’s so healing and so therapeutic. Um, so if you’re like stressed, you’re having a bad day, like change your environment, change your state, move your body, you know, those two things can make a massive difference.
But this brings me to, you know, that third piece there, which is something that I know that you speak quite a bit, a lot about, and that’s purpose, you know, and I think there’s alignment with ourself and who we are, what we know to be true, getting alignment with our body and our health. The next stage is getting alignment with our environment, the people we surround ourself with.
But then thereafter, there’s. , am I in alignment with the mission? I feel like I’m on the purpose that I feel like I’ve been brought into, you know, this world in order to do. Yeah. So how do you define purpose?
[00:46:47] Erica Lippy: In your opinion? I feel so passions are for us, purpose is for others. Hmm. And so for the longest time, literally for nine years or so, if not more, I was searching for my passion and purpose and I had the same job for so long that was not purposeful.
Uh, yes, it served a purpose, but it felt very much not connected to a bigger why. And so for the longest time I was trying to figure out what that was. I tried so many different things. And honestly, actually in the midst of 2020 is where I really, really locked down what it was. And that was being in the space of personal development and really inspiring others and, and, and being able to get people to step into their true, authentic self and really shine their light on the world unapologetically and just make a big, massive impact, uh, by being just true to who they are.
And so for me, purpose I is really just, it’s taking your passions and then also your expertise and kind of merging it together, but also with something that you feel called to do. And generally a lot of the things we feel called to do stems from pain, uh, not always pain, but that’s usually comes down to, um, something that we feel very strongly and passionate.
When it’s come, when it comes down to a purpose is stemming from something that we feel deeply, strongly connected to. Whether it be you experience sex trafficking or whatever, uh, or you witnessed animal abuse, or it could be so many different things, but because of your, yeah.
[00:48:32] Rachel Scheer: Massive gut issues and now you hope people solve their gut issues.
[00:48:36] Erica Lippy: of course. And what did I struggle with in my past was being really connected to who I truly was and being able to stand up confidently in that without care in the world what other people’s think other people think of me. So that is really what I feel so connected to is because of that, is because I was able to really uncover like what was my limitations and how to work out of that.
And really just like stand solidly in. In my worth. So, yeah, so purpose to me is really uncovering like, what is your biggest pain point and how can you use that to then serve others in the world?
[00:49:15] Rachel Scheer: Hmm. I love that you say that because one thing that I’ve really spoken to about healing is how can we really fully heal?
And I think that last piece of healing is taking that pain point that we’ve had to work through and understand where did it come from? You know, really create new habits and routines and beliefs. But that healing really, I think, comes full circle when we’re able to take. What we’ve struggled with and what we’ve walked through and now help another person do the exact same thing.
[00:49:48] Erica Lippy: A hundred percent. Yeah. So beautiful. Yeah, I, I mean, it’s, I’m so thankful for, again, like my full journey. I’m sure you are like, all these things we’ve been to been through is like, it really wraps everything in a bow, like for everything we’re meant to serve onto the world. And really a greater purpose and impact is, is through our experience and being able to be vulnerable about that and share it with others.
Because I heard this today, which I thought was really beautiful from Bryn Brown. She said that without vulnerability, you can’t have empathy. or you, you can’t get empathy from others. So being vulnerable, being able to share our pain and what we’ve been through is how people connect with one another. And also the ability to have empathy in this world.
So imagine if so many people did not share their struggles, their vulnerability, like how does one connect with another? That’s the way we connect with others, is through that, that vulnerability. And then that’s where there’s more empathy in the world. So I think the greatest purposes in the world, if you wanna say the greatest impact that people are making is through a lot of pain.
Yeah. So I think those are good questions to ask yourself. Is first, like obviously you need to discover your passions. What do you love talking about to somebody else? What do you, you know, wake up first thing in the morning thinking about. Uh, what do you love to do in your days? What brings you joy? And then also asking like, what’s your expertise?
What do I have past experience? What I, what am I really good at? And then the, the third piece is, what do I care about? What certain causes really pull up my heartstrings, so mm-hmm. , and then you discover your purpose through that process. I. Yeah.
[00:51:30] Rachel Scheer: And I think, I love what you said though about it being tied back to some type of a pain that we’ve had in our life, because I think that’s where we create so much of that passion.
I, I don’t think I’d ever be as passionate about gut health. Yeah. . Like if it wasn’t for almost my large intestine removed. And then becoming obsessed with learning about gut health and also just having, you know, that science and that dietetics background. So having some of that expertise kind of already in that field there, intertwined with the pain, intertwined with the purpose to help other people give them approach that I wish that I had when I was dealing with all of my gut issues.
And it’s the greatest feeling in the world, you know? And I think that’s what’s also so amazing is being able to look back at some of those pains in our life and be like, This makes sense because a number one, I would not be the person that I am here today if it wasn’t for any of those pains and now I wouldn’t be able to serve and make the impact that purpose that I’m able to now do today if it wasn’t for that pain.
And I think that’s where it truly all starts to click and makes sense.
[00:52:38] Erica Lippy: Yeah, absolutely. And it makes you also more relatable cuz usually people that are coming to somebody for gut health or gut issues and gut healing, they are struggling with something. So by you sharing your stor story vulnerably, they’re able to see them and you.
And so they already feel this connection and this, um, this synergy between you and them. And so you. Somebody they’re gonna listen to, somebody they’re gonna trust because they have created this empathy for you and, and, and vice versa. So it’s a beautiful synergy. Like, yeah. I, I just think it’s beautiful when you are able to discover what is that true, true calling.
And we all have a purpose on this planet, and, uh, it’s just, yes, it could take time. It took me a long time to figure it out, but I, I’m thankful that I’m in this place and I feel so connected to my why. Mm-hmm. And I’m crystal clear on it. I have absolute clarity. And so it’s a beautiful thing. But I do think it’s asking yourself those questions again, going back to the values and, and your experiences, your passions, and really uncovering all these gifts.
Mm-hmm. and that will unravel what you’re able to make an impact in the world with.
[00:53:52] Rachel Scheer: Yeah. Do you think your purpose can change over time? When’s your favorite?
[00:53:59] Erica Lippy: Absolutely. My goodness. Yes. I actually discovered a new purpose recently. Um, it was last year when my dog passed. I love pit bulls. I’m totally, I’m like a diehard pit bull person,
But because his passing, it gave me a newfound purpose that he gifted me with such greatness in my life. I like, I’m utterly blessed and thankful for that. He chose me as his mom, and because of that, I just feel like I wanna outpour that love onto so many more pit bulls, and I really wanna stand behind the breed.
So with that came a new purpose. Like I wanna be a pit bull advocate. It might not be on the top of my list of priorities to like really be a solid pit bull advocate, but I do know that was something that came out of an experience in my life. Blessing. Yeah. And so I do think that we will always, Find new purposes through our journey in life because we’ll have different experiences that shape us.
[00:55:03] Rachel Scheer: I love that and I, I think too, like we may have a purpose, but the avenue of that purpose can always shift and change over time. Like I know one of my purpose is helping people heal and realize their full potential, but if you think about it, right, there’s so many avenues you can do that through.
Like yes, it could be functional medicine and gut health, but it also can be, you know, something I’m stepping into here, which is like business coaching. You know, there can be so many avenue. To help people, you know, realize their full potential and to heal and what that really looks like. So I think, you know, very often we get caught up in, this is my one purpose, this one job, this one thing that I’m doing in my life.
And it’s like, that might be one avenue for you to fulfill your purpose. But there is so many different avenues for us to really fulfill that purpose. And like you said, we can have, you know, different purposes because as we’re evolving, I think our purpose very often is gonna evolve along with that, or at least it
[00:56:02] Erica Lippy: should.
Absolutely. And I think we need to be open to receive those gifts that come into our life when we at least expect it. Like we, we don’t know what’s gonna happen a year from now. Sometimes we don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow, per se, but like there could be a blessing that we have been closed off from, like that actually could show up any day in our life.
But we need to be open to receive that. And like you said, it might. Be a new discovery of a new way we should head. And I think that’s the blessing like that came over covid, right? It’s so funny that I’m talking about covid, it feels like so long ago, but so many blessings came in that period because so many people realized like, I don’t wanna be doing this job anymore.
Why do I wanna go to office? Why do I wanna be sitting at a desk? And, and people got really resourceful and started to figure out, oh, like I could do this. I could, you know, I’m more passionate about this. And it was really, you know, a chance to see like, oh, maybe this is a new direction I should had, and just being open to the possibilities in front of you.
[00:57:05] Rachel Scheer: Yeah. Being open to wherever this may take us in life. And I think too, when we approach it like that childlike excitement, like if you notice how a kid really operates, they’re like, Ooh, this excites me. This excites me. I’m passionate about this. No, I’m not anymore. And they’re, they just kind of follow that, like inner child intuition.
And I think very often we need to be more like that, but we get so stuck. Yeah. On a certain path. Like this is how it’s supposed to look. Like I said, I wanted to be a doctor when I was, you know, six years old. So now that I’m 30 years old, even though I hate it and I hate the work that I’m doing and I don’t wanna do it, I’m still following that path.
But it’s not really in alignment with our purpose. But I think we’re always given those little answers too. Yep. It changes over time. So this has been such a powerful podcast, Erica. Okay, so last question that I have for you. What does living an aligned life mean to you?
[00:58:01] Erica Lippy: Ooh, I love this question and, and some people will say, you know, some people ask the question like, what does this suc success look like to you?
And to me it’s better put at what does alignment look like to you, because I think that is true success. So I think that is having personal freedom, just being deeply connected to who you are, what you stand for, and who you’re being in the world. That your actions and who you say and want to be are in complete alignment and synergy.
You know that it’s, it’s how you’re showing up in the world and there is just this inner peace. And this confidence, trust, and acceptance that you stand in, that you’re being in the world. So I think alignment is who you say you are. You are being that in the world and by your actions, by how you’re showing up, how you’re talking to people, the promises you’re making, if you’re keeping your words.
So I, I just think it’s showing up in complete alignment in your every day, in everything you say you’re gonna do, you do it. I just think that’s true. Freedom is, is really being in alignment in, in all areas of your life. So yeah,
[00:59:13] Rachel Scheer: that’s beautiful. And I think that’s really what we’re all chasing off through at the end of the day is how can we feel more in alignment with ourself, with the people in our life and the work that we get to do and the impact that we get to make.
So this has been awesome. Erica, where can people learn more about you? Follow you, your podcast and social media?
[00:59:37] Erica Lippy: All right, well, on social media it’s Erica Lippi, e r i c a l i p p y. Some people get that wrong. And then, uh, erica lippi.com as well to find all the goodies. And my podcast is passion, love, pursuit, and a lot of powerful leaders that have come on the podcast just dropping so much wisdom and I’m just honored to share the space, the space with them.
So yeah, I would love for people to listen in too.
[01:00:05] Rachel Scheer: Everybody go give Erica a follow and check out her podcast. She has a badass podcast where she interviews incredible people. I had the honor to be a guest on her show, um, but she also is just an incredible podcaster. She even has a course about podcasting.
So if you’re somebody who has been maybe wanting to start a podcast or learn a little bit more about podcasting, Erica is the expert. So go check her out. And do us a favor, share this episode in your story on Instagram. Take a screenshot tag Erica tag share bandas podcast, and hope you guys have an awesome day.
Thank you so much, Rachel. I appreciate you.
Rachel Scheer is a Certified Nutritionist who received her degree from Baylor University in Nutrition Science and Dietetics. Rachel has her own private nutrition and counseling practice located in McKinney, Texas. Rachel has helped clients with a wide range of nutritional needs enhance their athletic performance, improve their physical and mental health, and make positive lifelong eating and exercise behavior changes.
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