A high-self worth is NOT something I have always had. Honestly, it’s something I struggled with for most of my young adulthood. It’s something that I had to 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝.
I subconsciously sought my worth through things that were outside of me…achievements, fame, how desired I was, or my relationships.
But placing our values on things that are outside of us will always leave us feeling less than. Because it’s based on things you can’t control.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩?
𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐬 𝐛𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞.
𝘗𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘴 are reality-based, immediate and controllable, such as kindness, work-ethic, following-through on commitments, etc.
While 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘴 are not based on fact, not immediate, nor controllable, such as a relationship, career, income, following, fame, etc.
But believing you have value does not come from a single decision or statement as much as I wish it did! It comes from new experiences and how we choose to measure ourselves (values.)
𝐀 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝.
It’s value based ⬆️
It’s experience based ⬇️
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧?
Do you need to be single for a while to know that you can be on your own?
Do you need to find a workout that you truly enjoy to give yourself the experience of liking movement?
Do you need to give yourself an experience of doing work your passionate about, so you don’t have to dread work anymore?
Self-worth is a marathon that never ends. It’s a mindset and a way of living. You will have to continue to seek new experiences that shift your values and build your worth.
Because life will keep coming at you.
Have a great week,