Rachel Scheer: When you ask for Growth Don’t be Surprised When Life Challenges the F*ck out of You

Today, in the Scheer Madness Podcast, Rachel talks about growth, why many of us find it difficult to grow, what it truly means to grow into a better version of ourselves, and the key things we should start asking ourselves to start our self growth.

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Chapters:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:20 Why is growth so hard?
• 03:44 Communicate with yourself everyday
• 06:23 The meaning of your growth
• 011:34 The 4 steps process when making a decision
• 14:10 Growth can be hard

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PODCAST TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] RACHEL SCHEER: Leaning into the resistance, you’re gonna have every feeling come up that says, I don’t want to! God, I don’t know if I think I can do this. But you know what, that’s when we are truly stepping in to our greatness.

[00:00:20] RACHEL SCHEER: When you ask for growth, don’t be surprised when life challenges the fuck out of you. Why is this so hard? I don’t know if I can do this. You guys, I get it. I have been there before. And to be completely honest, I was there. Just this last weekend, I went from going to Dallas traveling, having zero weekend, coming right back having to run a business with very little rest. And I reached this place of utter exhaustion. And I found myself asking myself just that. This is hard. I don’t know if I can do this. I don’t know if I want to do this. And it’s hard. And it’s supposed to be.

[00:01:23] RACHEL SCHEER: And I know so many of you guys listening are on your own growth journey. Maybe you’re trying to lose weight. Maybe you’re trying to heal from an autoimmune condition from some chronic gut issues. Maybe you’re starting your own business, and diving into entrepreneurship. Because anytime you try to uplevel in some area of your life, it’s gonna cause this inner resistance, because we’re being forced to have to step into a version of ourself that we’ve never been before. So of course, it’s hard. It’s supposed to be hard. But you want to know what’s empowering, getting to choose your heart. being unhealthy, it’s really hard. It’s hard to be overweight, the way you feel about yourself. When you look in the mirror, the guilt you feel after another binge session. It’s hard. And it’s also hard to change your habits. It’s hard to lose your weight. It’s, it’s hard. It’s hard to have to go to the gym every single day. Being out of shape, it’s hard. Working out, it’s hard. staying where you are out is hard. If nothing were to change, and you were to stay exactly where you are right now. Would you be happy? I think most of us would say no.

[00:03:07] RACHEL SCHEER: And you want to know what’s empowering. Choosing your heart. leaning into the resistance. Yes, you’re gonna have every feeling come up that says I don’t want to God. I don’t know if I think I can do this any more. But you know what, that’s when we are truly stepping in to our greatness. And the number one skill you can master in life. It’s not actually leading into doing things that are hard. But the number one skill you can master is your communication with yourself. Every single day, I get in an ice bath. If you guys follow me on Instagram on social media, you may see this on my story at times, but every single day, I get in the 37 degrees ice bath. And you know what comes up over me before that? I don’t want to get in. I just want to stay in the nice warm. Awful why? Why am I making myself do this, but I do it anyway. I choose to act in spite of thoughts, feelings, moods and emotions and lean into that discomfort. And I get in that ice bath. And then the conversation shifts. My my inner self then starts to say things like, okay, Rachel, we can just get out. It’s freezing, it’s cold. But that’s when I get a step into that next high gear. And I get to say to myself, Rach, you got this. You’ve done harder things before. You can do this. And even though I plan to sometimes I’m just be in the ice bath for three minutes, I go for four, I’ve even gone for five. Because the conversation I then begin to have with myself is, hey, you can do a little bit longer, you got this, you can do a little bit more. And the reason why I do that every single day is because of that conversation that I have with myself. It’s a reminder of a, we’re not gonna feel like doing a lot of things in life. But B, we are capable of far more than we think we are able. And every time we decide to lean into that discomfort, we add another brick of confidence, and knowing that we are capable to do whatever is hard, whatever life comes at me. And that’s why you know, when I’m in that ice bath, that conversation then shows up in other areas of my life. Because heck, there’s a lot of things I don’t want to do.

[00:06:02] RACHEL SCHEER: Sometimes I don’t feel like being the owner, running an entire business, sometimes I don’t feel like working out. But then the conversation shifts and it says, Rachel, you’ve got this, you’ve done harder things before. And I kick it into that next high gear. Any time we’re facing some kind of growth, we get to choose the meaning that we make of it. We can say, this is so hard, I can’t do this, I’m just going to quit, I’m going to jump out. Or we can say I am being challenged to reach down deep and find out who I really am. So I can do something greater. I’m being called to God’s purpose in what he has for my life. And I know this is so for me, so I can become the woman or the man that I was destined to be. But that doesn’t come with going the easy route that comes with leaning into the discomfort. But what’s empowering is you get to choose the meaning. And the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful, is a sense that we choose it and that we are responsible for it. Being responsible doesn’t say, I didn’t do this responsible says I’m taking ownership for this. It’s taking ownership in every single area of your life, your health, your fitness, your success, your income, your business, your relationship, your marriage. And that is truly the only thing we can control what things mean to us. And when we can control the meaning, I truly believe that we can control the key to life.

[00:08:08] RACHEL SCHEER: 95% of your body’s serotonin is produced by the bacteria that resides in your gut. And this explains why when my gut was a wreck, or when clients come to work with me at Rachel share nutrition. They don’t just suffer from things like bloating, constipation, diarrhea, but they also have symptoms of anxiety, depression, and brain fog because our gut and our brain are highly interconnected. And as Hippocrates says, all disease begins and ends in the gut. And this is the exact reason why I am so passionate about taking a functional root cause based approach for any chronic health condition, got issues, mental health, illness, autoimmune conditions, stubborn weight loss, you name it, me and my team do a comprehensive analysis looking at all these different systems, so we can test instead of just guess, and then develop a customized nutrition plan and protocol to address these root causes and balances in the body and restore function. If you want to book a free 30 minute call with anyone from my team, click the link in the show notes or visit Rachel shared.com.

[00:09:30] RACHEL SCHEER: Another reason why I do an ice bath every single day to is because I don’t negotiate with myself. Negotiation is not an option. I make a decision and I do it. Because that is the standard that I have set for myself. And a lot of us running negotiating with ourself. We’re like I’m gonna start this business. I’m gonna go on a health journey. I’m gonna lose weight. I’m gonna heal my gut. Then the negotiation starts, we start to say, Hey, it’s okay. You can have a cheat meal today. Hey, it’s okay. You don’t have to go work out.Hey, it’s okay. You’ve worked hard enough. And I want you guys to hear me when I say this, because I am all for self compassion. And this is not about coming from a place of being the dictator to yourself, This is coming from the place of loving yourself, loving yourself to be the best version of yourself. But we don’t negotiate with that. And when we really dig down deep, and we lean in, and we listen to what we know, we should do. God, our heart attack tells us what that is. We negotiate because of the people around us. Because when we’re going up to dinner, it’s what everybody else is doing. And I just want to fit in. We negotiate because of, you know, just not feeling like it like come on, you just don’t feel like it. And we start little by little by little, eroding our confidence through this negotiation. I don’t feel like it. But I’m gonna do it anyway.

[00:11:29] RACHEL SCHEER: I choose to act in spite of thoughts, feelings, moods, and emotion. And one of the most powerful things you can do is to decide. And a lot of people think they decide they think they make a decision. But there, they haven’t really made the decision because decision comes from action, not from the thought. It comes from taking action. And there’s four steps that actually happen from making a decision. One is clearly deciding what it is that you want, and what you are absolutely committed to achieving. That saying, I am absolutely committed to losing losing this weight. I am absolutely committed to healing my gut. I am absolutely committed to having a good marriage. What are you absolutely committed to doing? Decide? And two is what action? This is the second piece? What action are you going to take to make that happen? Because it’s not just saying, I’m gonna do this. There’s also steps, what action are you going to take, I’m going to be going to the gym Monday through Friday, I’m going to work with a coach and I’m going to follow through on what they say I need to do. I’m going to meal prep, every single week. I’m going to track my macros, whatever it is, decide what those action steps are and make that commitment to yourself to doing them. And then the third question we need to ask ourself is what is not working. Because a lot of us have been trying to create this change in our life for so long. But there’s obviously some things that are not working. It’s not working that when I go out with my friends on the weekend, I end up drinking and I fall off track and then I feel guilty thereafter, then I self sabotage. It’s not working that I don’t have my food planned out and meal prep. Because when I get hungry and I’m busy during the workweek, I end up just grabbing whatever is easiest and most convenient. That’s not working. So what is not working right now. And then number four, how do we need to change what is not working? And I truly believe this is how we can create the results and the change that we want in our life. And like I said earlier, it’s hard. Like it is hard. Growth is so hard. It’s so as staying stuck. So staying exactly where you’re at. So is being unhealthy out of shape. Having your gutter rack. Trust me, you guys. When my gut was a wreck, I had every feeling come over me of man. I want to eat what everybody else is eating. I wanted to take all the supplements. I didn’t want to have to relook at every menu before we go out to eat at a restaurant. But I made the decision that my healing was the most important thing to me. I made the decision and I committed to the actions that I needed to do in order to get there. And sometimes those action steps could be you working with a coach can because maybe you don’t know what those next steps can be. And that’s what’s so beautiful about working with a coach is they get to help you outline that for you.

[00:15:20] RACHEL SCHEER: You know, with our practice, that Rachel’s your nutrition, we do all the lab testing, we we look at what’s off in the body, we help create your nutrition, we help with the daily habits, your morning routine, you know, when you need to be meal prep, being identifying what’s not working in your life, like we help you with that. And I’m a massive believer in working with the coach because it is hard, it is hard. And sometimes we need an outside eyes to look at what we’re currently doing. And someone who has also been there who’s walked through it. I do not take advice from anybody in my life who hasn’t achieved what it is that I want to achieve in my life. I have a business coach, I have a life coach slash therapist. I have a relationship coach like guys, I got it all. And I’ve had a fitness and a nutrition coach before. And I’m a believer in that. Because I 100% am not committed to getting what I want. When I say I’m going to do something, I do it. And confidence does not come from reaching, you know, a certain weight. It doesn’t come from, you know, driving a nice car. It comes from the this, this is the greatest way to cultivate confidence. It’s to lean into discomfort, lean into the growth, doing hard things, doing things we don’t want to do, but that we know is moving us in the direction that we say we want to go. That’s frickin empowering. So I want to leave you guys with this. Remember this the next time you have those thoughts? It’s hard. I don’t know if I can do this. But the truth is, you are being challenged to reach down deep and find out who you really are. So you can do something greater. You’re up leveling in your life and it’s supposed to be hard. But you get to choose your hard.